Friday, May 21
Teaching your kids the art of true friend-making is difficult, particularly since we've moved five times in the past six years. We've been extremely active in all kinds of groups, classes, sports, and activities. In one location, ours was the house in the neighborhood that was the most fun to play at. Inviting friends into our lives has never been an issue. Its the keeping that we want to do now.
embryonic. My hope is that he is now in the right geographical and emotional place to do this in a deeper way. I hope that he finds new friends at his new school that he can know forever. I hope that he can begin to let down the guard of "I'm always the new kid" and give this next experience a good, solid shot. I hope that he continues to pursue the relationships that he's already begun and takes the time to recognize the value of letting your life story mix in with others. Because if it's up to me (and I know it isn't) I'm not going to move him anywhere, ever again.
But if he's going to do this, he needs to see me doing it first. I left the field day today feeling like that group of people wasn't my community and today I remain as un-invested in it as I was on the first day last September. There are other places and people where I choose to invest my time and he sees that, but I had a chance for my community and my son's community to intersect and I didn't take advantage of it. That was foolish.
So, you can bet, that next year I'll be the best room-mom I can possibly be. I'll be more intentional about creating circles that intersect with his. And the relationships that we pursue, thrive or fail, will be formative and enriching if we're both open to the possibility that lies ahead of us.